Someone asked me this question in his herpes dating relationship:
I like a girl, but she has herpes. Is this a deal breaker for most men? I don't know how our sex life would be since she has herpes. I like her (24f) and we've been on a couple dates and hooked up, but I stopped when she told me she had herpes. Can anyone shine some light on this?
Edit:I don't know why I'm being down voted, I just want opinions.
Herpes is a relatively common sexually transmitted disease or STD. Unlike some STDs, such as gonorrhea or chlamydia, once a person is infected the herpes virus, he or she will always be a carrier of the disease, even when there are no symptoms present. It's possible to have a healthy and rewarding relationship with a woman who has herpes, but it's important to take precautions to reduce the likelihood that she passes herpes to you.
Share 5 steps for dating a girl with herpes:
Step 1. Treat s/he like one of your friends. Think of it as a dating thing, but without the sex.
Step 2. Take him/her out to dinner etc., and have fun.
Step 3. While you might not be able to have sex during an outbreak, you can still maintain a sex life when s/he is not having an outbreak. If there is an outbreak, be understanding and try other forms of affection and pleasure.
Step 4. Don't make this about you. Especially if this is a new thing for him/her.
Step 5. Don't think it'll be easier if you get herpes. S/he will feel like crap and if it doesn't work out, you now have it too.
3 safer sex tips:
- Don't have sex during an active outbreak.
- Don’t have sex when s/he is having symptoms of an outbreak.
- Your partner was brave enough to disclose the infection, consider his or her feelings in times of outbreaks