Never give up even you have herpes.

I remember last summer when I found out I had HSV I was crushed. I felt like I would never be able to have a "normal" dating life and that no one would ever want to see me again. A few months went by and I had gone out with some girl friends to a club. Long story short I met this guy whom I talked with most of the night. As months went by we became close as friends. I confided in him and he confided in me. Eventually he admitted having feelings for me. While I was definitely flattered I was freaked out as well because he didn't have "H". So one night we went to dinner and I decided to tell him about having it. I told him that I really did like him BUT I didn't date anyone outside of the "H" circle because I didn't want to risk exposing anyone else. We talked about the statistics and the sobering fact that so many people have it and don't even know they do, etc. etc.

I expected an immediate rejection but was surprised by his comment. He kind've just smiled and said to me, "so 25% of the population has "H" now correct?" I smiled back and said, "yes." Then he kind've chuckled and said, "so you're gonna alienate 3/4 of the dating population because you have this?" After I got home that night I thought long and hard about it. He was right. I have closed myself off in a bubble and not allowed myself to see anyone outside of the circle for fear of rejection. Now don't get me wrong, I'm not actively seeking people who don't have "H" but I'm not going be afraid to talk to people just because they don't have it.

Long story short, don't close your eyes to wonderful people for fear of rejection. If that person is "the one" for you, they will love you and accept you unconditionally.

By tcrgal2011, Texas, United States

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While browsing a few internet forms, I keep coming across men and women that are in a relationship simply because them and their partner share the same STD. Now, while that is a wonderful thing, that, exclusively, is not a reason to maintain a relationship. Exhibit a: "Johnny" and "Ashley" have been dating for 3 months.

Ashley is beginning to get tired of the same conversation. She understands that they both have the same STD, and that it would be easy to sit back and suck it up and try to make things work. However, all she can think about is how little they have in common. She is bored when she is with Johnny. She tried to talk to him about it, but is scared to break up with him, for fear that others will see her as "damaged goods". Whats a girl to do?

Personally, I stayed in a relationship similar to the one outlined above far longer than I should have. We bonded over our shared STD, and about how hard dating had become. Our first date was all about sharing our "infection" story. As was our second. And our third. Until one day it finally dawned on me that this was ALL we talked about. We had nothing else in common. While it was nice to not have to worry about being judged, I was staying in the relationship for all of the wrong reasons.

Some time has passed since then, and it now all seems so absurd to me. Now, I am looking for a person I like and am compatible with who happens to have my same STD (or a person who is not infected that can look past it). Then, I was looking for a person with my same STD and that was about it.

I guess what I am saying is to not let your disease define you or your relationship. It works out better that way in the end.

By Arch84, Georgia, United States

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