I first contracted genital herpes after an ex and I engaged in oral sex followed by intercourse, neither of us are sure who gave it to who but we know that there was no infedility involved. After we broke up I was finding it very difficult to talk to women for fear of being rejected.
I was lucky in that the first person I came out to was very understanding and accepting and we ended up dating for more than a year. I think that this experience went so well for me because I chose to tell this person after we had been seeing each other (not sexually mind you) for a while so there was some level of trust. Also I didn't beat around the bush when I told her, I was completely honest with my condition and told her if we did have protected sex, there was still a chance that she could contract the disease. I gave her some herpes dating websites so that she could do some research for herself and after we went on a few more dates she felt comfortable enough to start engaging in sexual activity.
So, be Honest with your condition and sincere in dating someone without Herpes.